I think therefore I am…

The last 8 years career-wise has been rocky–mainly because I was working to live and not living to work. I was working jobs that I was GOOD at but were not fulfilling and not consistent with my primary core value which is FREEDOM (financial freedom, location independent work, you get the picture). I had become a Wage Slave and worse…somewhere along the way I had lost my passion for work.

In thinking about what I wanted to do the next 10 years and beyond, I decided to conduct a personal audit to see what activities I really enjoyed doing at work and what activities people had most often sought my guidance on. I discovered I really enjoyed working with my work colleagues and clients, coaching and inspiring them and serving as a resource to help them solve complex problems. In fact, at every company in which I’d worked I’d been sought out by higher ranked colleagues for help coaching them through specific situations. Also I had become accustomed to family and friends doing the same, I mused. Coaching, though unpaid work at the time was fun..!

As I shared my findings with a friend, I expressed dismay that I would not be able to take advantage of my passion because I lacked the experience, the training and the certification necessary for me to transition into the field Training and Development. My work experience up to that time had been limited to Sales and Marketing roles. Honestly, I was INTIMIDATED when faced with the idea of change, in hindsight it was because of a lack of confidence and a lack of knowledge of the steps I needed to take in order to make the change.

My friend then innocently asked me why I needed training and a certification to transition into Training when I was already being approached (albeit informally) to do the work. I feebly attempted to make excuses that THIS situation was different but really I had no legitimate defense. November of 2016, My friend (now Accountability Partner) challenged me to tell anyone and everyone who would listen that I was a Corporate Trainer and to see what would happen.

Within 3 weeks of taking up the challenge, I was signed on as a contractor with a company to deliver training seminars to mid to large-sized companies.

January 2017, I delivered my first training seminar to a group of construction workers a few of whom were none too pleased about being asked to take the mandatory training. I was nervous to say the least. I was also very prepared. My passion for training showed through to participants and they warmed to me and softened. They listened and asked questions and finally my first paid training seminar was over. In the training evaluations, I was rated very high in my training effectiveness, delivery and content. Since then I have been given more training gigs now with primarily Fortune 500 companies and large government accounts.

What I found from this experience is when I changed my thoughts, and stated my intention, my desire manifested into reality. You can too.

Now that I’ve gotten my start, I’m thinking of a higher purpose in which I can use my passion to serve others. With 60,000 single parent (primarily mothers) households alone, in the county in which I live,  I want to teach single mothers how to lead exceptional  fearless lives with their children, as I am learning to do.

Going forward I’ll be sharing my experiences and learnings as a single parents with the hope that you get some benefit to help you in your life’s journey. I invite you to join me–let’s take this journey together.

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Questions: What changes are you avoiding making in your life and why? What steps could you take TODAY to move closer to your dream? Please share your experiences in the comment section below.



I’m ready for my close up…

Yesterday I tried a new stylist since my regular one is on her honeymoon. 

Unfortunately, I ended up with a bad haircut. By the way, there’s no hiding a bad haircut–when you have SHORT hair. And for some inexplicable reason the stylist (who’d endlessly complimented my hair texture) decided to leave most of my head with less than an inch of hair all round–barely enough to pinch. She did however, kindly leave me a small fringe in front and wisps near my ear lobes. So I kind of still look like a girl.

After viewing the damage in the salon mirror, I did something that in a previous life I would’ve never done. I summoned a brave smile, swallowed my disappointment that the outcome looked nothing like the magazine picture that I’d given her, and I tipped her. She’d given it her best shot, afterall, and we did have a wonderful chat, so I also gave her an extra fond hug since it’d be my last visit.

When I got home and looked again in bathroom the mirror I was again saddened…and overwhelmed with helplessness. I’d just started a new job in a conservative industry 5 weeks ago!

My 4 year old son gave me a hug and said “Mom your hair smells good and I like the way it feels!” My 6 year old daughter took one look at my head, saw my red eyes and instinctively said “Mom, I like your hair!” Then she too hugged me.

I cheered up.

Although I rarely wear earrings, I decided to try on a bold pair that I’d never worn. Then I rimmed by eyes with black eyeliner, from a makeup set that I’d receieved as a gift last year but had never used. The effect was a little Annabella from Bow Wow Wow-ish (circa early ’80’s.)

At the end of the day, bad hair cut or not–it is still me. So I scooped up my adorable tribe and exited the building. After all it was a great day out.


Recently I started saying “Good morning!” to everyone I’d meet early in the day. This simple gesture not only put me in a more upbeat frame of mind but also put smiles on the faces of most folks that I came across.
Emboldened, I extended my greeting to “Hello!” and “Good night!”, conversations, even. Next, I began holding the door open for the next person behind me, offering to get anything from the pantry and cafeteria for colleagues, while I was there. And, asking to join sole diners during lunch.
Some people seemed surprised at my gestures…of kindness, I guess. I’ve learned, for the first time in my life not to avoid doing something out of fear of rejection! Now, I embrace rejection because it tells me that I tried.

I feel like these simple acts are stoking a fire that’d dimmed over time and now my spirit is on fire.

Game on: Twenty Wishes

About a year ago I read a book called the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. It inspired me to do little things that weren’t necessarily pleasureable but led to greater happiness, such as, meditating while waiting for traffic or the cashier at the store, making the time to do things I enjoyed but spent little time on, like playing with my children.

The book also inspired me to make resolutions including seeking a new role at my company, pay off all my debts ($50k worth in a year), move closer to family, exercise one hour daily, and get to know the community in which I live better. All these I have done successfully even though prior to reading the book I thought some things on my list nearly impossible to achieve. Once I became more mindful of these things somehow, I achieved them. In fact, I learned that success in one resolution led to success in another!

Recently, I finished reading a book called “Twenty Wishes” by Debbie Macomber. It has now inspired me to create a list of twenty things that I’ve always wanted to do but never found the time or courage and things I used to enjoy but stopped doing for some reason. So far, I’ve ten things on my list including falling in love, learning Spanish, visiting Paris, learning to knit to name a few.

I am so excited about this challenge! One thing that I noticed about the book was that at the beginning of the challenge each fictional character, like myself, had doubts about achieving their wishes. Yet they each took a single step towards success, and challenged themselves at a point where they might’ve walked away.

Ultimately, they all got their wishes.

I expect to also.

Holy Crap!

Chew on this… About a year ago I began eating only food resembling their natural state–so no pre-packaged foods.

What I’ve noticed is that during the time that I was eating pre-packaged foods, I was lucky if I eliminated every other day.

Now that I eat only unprocessed foods, I eliminate at least 3 times a day.

TMI… I know, but I care. Really.


1.Indulge the children with experiences vs. things.
2. Income should exceed expenses–weekly.
3. Dance like a teenage girl.
4. Maintain stability.
5.Quit reading troll boards.
6. Do not settle.
7. Buy organic.
8. Declutter, clean, and organize.
9. Pursue excellence.
10. Accept help.
11.Let the children…be children.
12. Set boundaries–no exceptions.
13. Fully embrace my free spirit.
14.Learn to say no–without guilt.
15. Focus on what I have–avoid gratuitious consumption.
16. Be accepting without judgment.
17. Get out there.
18. Breathe mindfully.
19. Explore different options.
20. Engage all 5 senses.